“Your own words are the bricks and mortar of the dreams you want to realize. Your words are the greatest power you have. The words you choose and use establish the life your experience.”– Sonia Choquette


Welcome to Day 16 of the  Love Challenge. If you’re only just catching up with us today go here first to find out what you need to do to get started.

The Power of Words

The words you use determine how you feel and effect whether you feel good about yourself.  Are you conscious of your self talk, both what you speak out loud to yourself and the whispers from within? Do you catch yourself when you are beating up on yourself? Do you have a friend who catches you on your language? How does you body feel when you have negative words tumbling out of your mouth? it’s not dancing with joy is it? Sometimes when we are under pressure, have deadlines our to-do list is overwhelming the negative words come tumbling out and we feel our joy and enthusiasm dissipate. Our bodies slump and often tiredness appears and everything becomes an effort. We are not loving ourselves when we are in the mode.

So often we are not conscious we are doing this until someone else points it out. I was talking with a friend today she was talking about everything she had to do before traveling later in the week and there was no joy in the words she was using and I asked her if she was aware of how negative she sounded. She was as she was in that moment seeing everything that she had to do as an added burden. When this occurs we need to take a deep breath and reframe the words we use.  I suggest that we first look at how we will feel when we get to the next point in this journey and work backwards from there. So often in this situation I hear people using these three words:


Listen to your words today.
How often do you use these 3 small words?

 Observe today how often you catch yourself saying don’t, not and no and ask yourself


When you eliminate these 3 words from your vocabulary your will feel more love for you and you inner child will smile.

Daily Activity:

  1. Mirror work twice a day. I am saying I love and accept myself 21 times in the morning and again in the evening.  If you are finding yourself yawing read yesterday’s post 
  2. If it resonates with you use EFT and Ho’oponopono
  3. Please comment below, on your pinterest board , on twitter use hash tags #loveu421 and #love challenge and on my facebook page.
  4. Follow 21 Day Love board at pinterest where you can get the images for your journal I will be sharing all the images each day. I have also added them to thegoogle event.

With love, gratitude and in abundance always

Suzie Cheel

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5 Responses

  1. Hi there,
    You just convinced me that I need to wean myself off using those three words. I’m committing to reducing their use drastically in the upcoming month as I’m not optimist about being able to totally eliminating them by going cold turkey.

    When I notice my monkey mind generating negative thoughts/words I have found that rejecting them strongly doesn’t work. I take passing note of them and choose to ignore them in the moment. Later ie. once daily I take the time to just sit and be with the negativity. By observing without grasping or judging I can trace where they are coming form (usually but not always fear). Then I can take care of my inner business and make a tiny step forward on the pathway to self-love.

    Forgiving myself for being in a hurry and becoming callous which leads to finding my foot in my mouth is the most difficult thing to do. But if I don’t do it and don’t love me then I can’t truly love anyone else. This I know but it’s not easy to practice. I think the mirror work you present here will be effective. I will be using it along with my 1 dozen morning affirmation recitations starting tomorrow. Thanks so much for sharing it and the wisdom in this post too.

    1. Thanks for dropping by and for you wonderful comment, you make my heart sing 🙂 I would love to hear how you go with reducing your use of those 3 words. I find the more conscious i became the less and less I used them- also my partner is good at reminding me.
      Yes it is amazing how fear cause us to use negative words and lower our vibes. letting go of judgement does help to as you say.
      Have you tried ho’oponopono i am using this now daily for forgiveness and it is shifting energy quickly. It was day 3 https://suziecheel.com/love-challenge-day-3-forgive-yourself/. How are you finding the affirmations are working for you?

      1. Good morning,
        I find affirmations strengthen my resolve. This morning I watched your video and added ho’oponopono EFT tapping. Thank your for sharing them with me.

  2. Another little word that like don’t is a contraction of not is can’t. Oh the power of I can’t. I can do and I chose not because …. can really help you discover what’s really going on.

    Also “should” this is disempowering as well. We feel a lack of choice with this one.

    Love the reminder about words! Suzie you are awesome!

    1. Yes Michele,
      I nearly added that one in too- I wrote a blog post on this several years ago along with one on woulds, coulds and shoulds. Thanks for the uplifting comment 🙂

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