Being Vulnerable ~ Being Brave, Showing Up And Being Seen

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Vulnerability is  having the courage to show up and be seen. Baring your souls without any guarantees- Brené Brown

Last Tuesday I invested almost 2 hours listening to Dr Brené Brown author of  Daring Greatly  talking on Oprah’s Life Class on Vulnerability. I was hooked I took pages of notes, tweeted out the many gems that came from both Brené and Oprah’s mouths.

When Brené said : “If you are not in the arena getting you butt kicked I am not interested” Those words stopped me and reflected on my own holding back, those little niggly thoughts it’s not ready, I am not enough, which has led me to be sitting on too many incompletions!

I was uplifted and inspired, I also knew that it was time for me to embrace my own vulnerability and stop thinking it’s:

Not ready, not good enough, how do I know people will buy it, want it , need it, it hasn’t worked in the past! Why will now be any different?

I have so many things that I have started, half launched! I just realised that even my new Healing Artt does not have a link here! It’s time to be brave, really show up and be seen and share my message and ASK for help!

Brené shared what she says are the 4 myths of vulnerability

1. Vulnerability is weakness

2. I don’t do vulnerability

3. Vulnerability is letting it all hangout

4. We can go it all alone!

Here are some of the gems I captured

  • Vulnerability is the birthplace of trust, engagement and innovation
  • Shame needs secrecy silence & judgment to grow; once YOU speak it an it receives empathy, it goes away.
  • Everything works out in the end, if it hasn’t worked out, it’s not the end”
  • Shame is such a stresser. It kills quicker than cancer
  • “When perfectionism is driving, shame is always riding shotgun and fear is in the backseat.”
  • When you can not accept and ask for help without self judgement, you are always doing so with judgement!
  • Shame corrodes our ability to trust other people because it corrodes our ability to trust ourselves.
  • Being afraid and courageous in the same moment: That’s what daring greatly is about
  • Vulnerability is having the courage to show up an be seen
  • We can’t be brave when we are not vulnerable
  • You can’t have true courage unless you open yourself up to vulnerability
  • Vulnerability is a cornerstone of confidence
  • Write your story on the arena wall
  • Talk to yourself like you talk to someone you love
  • Ride the wave and stay in the flow.
  • Joy is the most vulnerable emotion we experience.
  • Vulnerability is being  afraid and courageous in the same moment:
  • Life is about showing up and being seen.
  • We are are hardwired for connection
  • If you don’t know how you do vulnerability, vulnerability is doing you
  • When we open our heart space we see ourselves and the world as vulnerable and authentic
  • We share with people who’ve EARNED the right to hear our story.
  • Vulnerability is a practice, it’s not something you check off a list, you keep showing up.

The Ted Talk on Vulnerability that Brené gave back in 2010 that really allowed her to be seen and has had over 1 million views.

“Wholeheartedness which is how I term vulnerability is a movement, a revolution!
I don’t think we ever feel more alive than when we are feeling brave and we can’t be brave when we are not being vulnerable “~Brené Brown
and the quote that birthed the book Daring Greatly, which I am ordering today along with Gifts of Imperfection 🙂
Daring Greatly
I will to be listening next week to Brené and Oprah continue this empowering series. Next week’s topic is: Why it’s impossible to walk through the arena door if you are too afraid of what other people will think, you are thinking I am not enough………………….!
Are you walking thought the arena door?
How will you brave today?
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44 thoughts on “Being Vulnerable ~ Being Brave, Showing Up And Being Seen”

  1. Billie

    I love Brene Brown. I saw the same episode of Oprah. I haven’t read her books yet, but they are on my wish list! One of my favorite quotes of hers is, “Talk to yourself like you talk to someone you love”. By the way, you ARE good enough! You are awesome! Thanks for the lovely quotes!
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  2. Xihla

    I love the quotes/sayings about vulnerability!

    I love that being vulnerable does not mean that you are weak or afraid, it also means that you had courage enough to open yourself up!

    I just found this blog today, and I will be bookmarking it!
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  6. Karo

    Suzie, I’ve never heard of the author/speaker before, but wow! The quotes are great reminders of our vulnerability/humanity. I do believe we’re all vulnerable, just as we are human! But it never hearts to remind ourselves about this, stop brooding and doubting oneself, and just start doing things. 🙂
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  10. Judy Stone-Goldman

    Like many, I heard about Brene Brown when her talk first came out. What an amazing message, and I knew how many others were moved as well. The whole topic of shame and secrecy has been one I’ve wrestled with for many years (decades!) It used to have much more power, and I know I’ve made progress, but I have so far to go. I do regularly hide myself and my work, thinking I’m not good enough, not the right type, etc. I know I’m going to be very challenged in this in the coming months, and I am excited–willing to be ready!

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  11. Angie K. Millgate

    Brene’ is one of my favorite authors and speakers. I love that her foundation is so scientific and comes from the perspective of being a researcher. Her message is powerful and, every time I read her work or listen to her, I am touched.
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  12. Kate Lindsay

    I love Bre Brown. Her quote about perfectionism, shame and fear all hanging out like buddies is a fav of mine but there are many gems that you shared that I was not familiar with. I know that this post is one that I will go back to. I appreciate your passing on your story and the wisdom that seems to be growing with and accompanying you.
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  13. Jenny

    Wow – how exciting you got to experience this! There seems to be a common theme I am reading everywhere, and this just further solidified the message to me to take the risk. Really great insights, thank you so much for sharing this wisdom with us!

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  15. Christina
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    Hi Suzie,

    I love this! Vulnerability is something I’m working on. I love the idea of putting yourself out there in the ring so to speak even if it means getting knocked around. Expecting it makes it a little easier. Reading about how you wonder how you can put yourself more out there made me ask myself those questions too.

    Just today in fact, I shared a post on my Facebook wall that I thought would be helpful, about girls being treated differently in learning environments. I was shocked to get some very harsh reactions from men and support from women! It feels strange to be causing all kinds of dissention innocently, but I guess that’s how you know you’re really striking a chord! This was a gentle way for me to get acclimated 🙂

    Good luck with your journey!

    ~Christina

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  16. Ron

    Being vulnerable is right where you have to be to be noticed and to create something of value to others. If you are not out there on the edge being vulnerable perhaps you have to re-think what you are doing in this short life!

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  17. Elle

    Suzie, this is priceless. I recognize soooo much of what you say here, in big and small amounts in different areas, but it’s there all the same. I haven’t seen the particular Oprah show you talk about, but I’m going to be on the lookout for it somewhere on line!

    Perfectionism, shame and fear in the backseat….oh yes I’ve been there and it can creep up on me unawares every now and then.

    Great Suzie, I’m glad you took time off to breathe and you found this.
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  20. Mary

    Hi Suzie, Yes Brene Brown is a legend, I have her book and her interview on Oprah is really great in fact I think it is ground breaking!
    Thanks,
    Mary.

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    1. Suzie Cheel

      What wonderful words Sandra- richness touched my heart. I got that I will be more in the flow of living my purpose and being in joy. Thanks for the encouragement- this layer is a big one I discovered yesterday, so I stepped back- and switched of, read a novel, soaked in a coconut oil bubble bath and today I am going to set myself to Shine and share in September
      Namaste xxoo
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  22. Ellie Walsh

    I saw this series … it was Excellent! I love this one “Vulnerability is being afraid and courageous in the same moment:” For me that is about being real … being authentic. 😉

    Thanks so much for sharing Suzie!
    Big Hugs! …. And of course we all know “You absolutely, without a doubt, are More than Enough!”
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    1. Suzie Cheel

      Hi Susan,
      Yes that one hit me too and has been an interesting few days too as I have become more conscious of Fear riding in the back seat and how it is so limiting
      Namaste

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