Love Yourself First: 21 Day Love Challenge

i-love-youDo you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror Byron Katie

How often do you look in the mirror and say I love you? Once a day? Maybe more? Or never? I have a heart with the words I love you stuck to the mirror in my bathroom and I am guilty of not standing there and actually saying daily  ” I love you” Mirror-love Louise Hay talks about the importance of mirror work in You Can Heal Your Life . Louise does mirror exercises daily and gets clients to get a small mirror and looks into their eyes and say ” I love and accept you exactly as you are”

If we really love ourselves everything in our lives works. –Louise Hay

Love, well self-love really  has been my journey and one of my lessons over the past 18 months. I remember when I was sitting in the treatment chair in the renal unit at Tweed Hospital, having what was to be my last dialysis treatment, back on July 23rd 2011 I heard the message: “Suzie, this is about love” and I wrote in my journal:

You will be healed when you see and feel only love for you first, then you will be all that you have to love and to give. When it is totally anchored in inner peace and that feeling of pure joy that allows the awakening that is already you to be empowered. That’s the ripple effect.

I talk about the ripple effect of change and this journey of love has had many ripple effects that have effected change in so many areas of my life. You will read more of this in my book  Lucky To Be Alive  that I am writing now.

You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy.- Anon

JOIN IN THE CHALLENGE: Love yourself first…….


Okay I know that might seem extreme putting yourself first.  Yes it can be hard. I know I was told always to think of others first. I now know that if I have been taught at an early age to really love me, and that is was empowering, my life would have followed a different path. Still my life has been so blessed with so many learnings that I can now share with others on their paths to self love.

Lately, I have noticed myself slipping back into some negative habits that may have had  something to do my autoimmune system failure in July 2011 so I am putting those to sleep. I have also other people I know not putting themselves first. When we let our love for ourselves take second place we often become ill and our dreams can fade.

I have decided to give myself a love challenge for the next 21 days beginning on Valentine’s Day Thursday 14th Febuary. Why 21? Research says it takes 21 days to develop a new habit. I intend to say ” I love and accept you exactly as you are” 21 times twice a day while looking into the mirror. I will do this each morning and at night. You could make this a daily habit like starting and ending your day with gratitude which is so important to self-love too. 

If you’d like to join me in this love challenge, here’s what you need to do:

  1. Get yourself a journal or notebook to record your journey
  2. Find a hand mirror to use each day for your mirror work.
  3. Make ten minutes each morning/evening to read the daily challenge post and ten minutes to do the daily activity.
  4. Write out the heart whisper below onto the first page of your journal and than read it out loud.

My heart is whispering I love me,
I am so grateful for me
I am a blessing to myself
and the world
Today I will be gentle with me
Today I will allow myself to shine
I will listen to my heart’s whispers and know that
I am beautiful and I am love ♡

I will be posting here each day starting on 14th February as well as sharing the post on facebook. This will be fun, I know if it isn’t fun I won’t complete it! I will be doing some meditations for you. The gift I am giving myself for this challenge is to start painting again each day so I will share these with you, a new prescription series coming up I think- I will be listening to my heart whisper and following it and trusting the messages I hear. You might like to think of something that would make your heart sing that you have been putting off.

Everything we do will be shifting your self-love vibration in a positive way. For some it maybe an emotional roller coaster as you open yourself up to love and begin to listen to your heart whisper. Just remember that I and others will be sending you loving vibrations. and be here for support. You are not alone. Please use the comment section and you can contact me here.

 Want to join in this magical love fest? Leave a comment below,  share it with your friends, tweet it, share it on facebook. Contact me if you have any questions.

Namaste xxoo


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44 thoughts on “Love Yourself First: 21 Day Love Challenge”

  1. Love this idea! I’m used to the Buddhist meditation of loving-kindness where we use the phrase: “May I be well, may I be happy, may I be safe” while allowing self-love to begin with. Thank you, Suzie. You are one courageous lady!

    1. Hi Sandra
      Thanks Is i am just accepting that i am courageous 🙂 I like your buddhist loving-kindness too. Today i decided to use my bathroom mirror and be more expansive with my mirror work- so much fun and I am feeling a shift.

  2. Wow, isn’t that amazing… you and Evelyn and me doing the stuff this year about self-love. It must be in the air:) I created a 30-day journal to get to love yourself, together with affirmation cards.
    Looking forward to follow your journey. Thank you!

  3. We really need to get together and do something on the topic of self-love. It’s awesome that you are doing a 21-day of self-love. I have just announced a free teleclass on loving the self and will be holding it on Feb 19/20. Do join me if you are free! Let’s celebrate who we are in every way!!

    1. Awesome Evelyn,
      Wow I am going to do a webinar during this challenge- I was planning to do something for Feb for self-love and last Friday this came to me during a meditation and a walk on the beach brought the idea to being. lets- talk on skype soon.
      with love Suzie

  4. What a joyous exercise. I will try and journal…but I will definitely put that heart on my own mirror, write out the “pledge” and think of you every day when I read it to myself lovingly.

    Hugs! I love your spirit, Suzie!

    1. Hi Vidya
      How wonderful I will love sharing this journey with you. The journal is optional- could be online a place to remind oneself of how wonderful you are and have a place to do some of the fun things I have planned
      Love you

  5. Love in action daily, woohoo! we all deserve to remind ourselves of the divine truth, that we are love, that we are loved, and that we are to share love daily, so this is just one such example of how we can with ourselves, looking forward to the journey with all 🙂

    1. Hi Brian
      Great to have you on board. yes it will be woohoo time I am excited as I have been coming up with lots of love ideas for the 21 days and now i am looking at having prizes too.:)

  6. Their is a 21 days of self care message for me. I was invited to join one for weight which is more about affirmations about self love. Now this 🙂 I’m thrilled to join!

  7. You’ve done it again Suzie! Reminded us that the starting point to create and manifest the love in our lives that we REALLY want, begins with looking in the mirror! Thank you my friend! And I think it’s especially helpful for us single peeps during Valentine’s Week! Love ourselves FIRST and then we will magnetize more love to us!

    Namaste and
    Rainbow Blessings!

  8. I strongly agree Suzie, it all starts with loving yourself first and being comfortable with yourself!

    The people that aren’t are always looking for somebody else to complete them and make them ‘happy’ but they just repeat the same pattern, they feel good for a while but then are like ‘what happened, this person was meant to make me happy.’

    All the time they don’t yet realize that they need to love themselves first and foremost!


    1. Hi Ben’ great to meet you
      Yes being comfortable with yourself and in your own skin is so important and owning your own love. What a wonderful world it will be when we all do love ourselves unconditionally 🙂

  9. So true how many of us have been taught (programmed) to put others before ourselves…. When I was young I remember my brother, who is 12 yrs older, say he loved himself. Ohhh I was so upset! I told him he was conceited! — He laughed and told me “you have to love yourself first” … Hmmm it took me many years before I realized he was right! 😉

    Years ago, probably from Louse Hay, I had learned to look in the mirror and tell myself “I Love You” … Oh that was difficult at first! But I continued to do it… and next thing I knew I was not just saying it I was Feeling it!

    Reading your post made me realize … I haven’t been doing that so much anymore … I think it is time for a Love Boost! 😀 Thanks for the reminder!

    Big Hugs & Big Love to You! 😀

  10. I have been giving myself a few extra “winks” in the mirror lately. It’s kind of my secret “I Love You” that I have with myself. This is such a great challenge. The more full I feel, the more I give…so heck yeah, I am going to fill myself up first.

  11. What an amazing and beautiful challenge Suzie! I do something similar to this and it was what truly helped me to love me for who I was. This being “love month”, what better time to start loving you so you can love others from a genuine heart-centered place.

  12. What an awesome message and project Suzie! I must admit I rarely stand in front of the mirror to deliver my “love ya” message – though occasionally I will toss myself a “You still got it girlie!” wink. I lost myself for awhile … like maybe 10 or 15 years … while I was married. My ex was a verbal abuser but not the mean kind. He would just systematically criticize everything I did or said. No matter how much confidence you have going in – over time you start to believe it. It took me a couple of years to regain my confidence, so now my own mission is to encourage others to believe in themselves because I know firsthand how important that is.

  13. This sounds like a fun exercise. I have to admit I don’t look in the mirror much, just enough to brush my hair. Every once in a while I’ll take a good deep look into the mirror and wonder, “who is that staring back at me?” I’m generally positive and accepting of myself, yet I’m interested to see if this exercise will yield any benefits. I’ll give it a try and see what happens.

  14. I’m always up for a challenge and this is such a great one. Not only because self-love is soooo important but because it’s do-able. Beautiful!

  15. I love this, Suzie! I don’t know if I will do the journal, but I will read the post and I will put a heart/reminder on my mirror! Louise Hay is awesome and so are YOU! I love how you are healing yourself! Love is the Healer!

  16. Louise Edington

    What a lovely idea! I shall try to remember to join you! I have started writing as it’s been something I wanted to do all my life and am following my long time passion of astrology so am getting better at doing things I love but I know more self love would be good. I think we are friends on FB so I may turn on notifications for you to remind me. Thank you!

    1. That will be wonderful Louise yes we can all do with more self love. thanks for dropping by. i saw you were doing astrology- i have been looking at my chart this week. interesting times. Yes i am getting back into writing too 🙂

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